Emotional healing through acupuncture? Yes, yes, YES.

10 Sep

3:47 pm

Wow, is all I can say. I just got back from an acupuncture (and tui na) session with a well-regarded therapist here, and I’m… Drained? Changed? Blown away? Scolding myself for not having done it sooner along in my recovery (I’m on day 24 the second time around; it would have been day 90 today if I hadn’t drunk a couple times in August), AND for not having kept up with my health — mental and emotional — while drinkin’ that I let it get this bad.

The first thing he did, that all acupuncturists do, is “feel your pulse” (along your wrists) to take a read on you — your physical, emotional, and mental health. Mind is body, body is mind, and fixing one without the other doesn’t make sense to practitioners of traditional Chinese medicine. My back pain started 10 years ago, and I knew pretty early on that it was connected to my other problems: former bulimia, self-esteem issues, childhood trauma. (I store my reaction to stress and/or LIFE, considering the amount of pain I feel, almost entirely in my left shoulder). Today’s session told me that it is almost 100% related, as far as how severe it gets and how constant it is.

I told him all about my separate pains (sciatica, iliotibial band syndrome, and generalized pain along my left spine/left shoulder). He mentioned that the pain I was feeling running along my groin and down my hamstring is associated with the liver (energy) channel. HUH. SHIT, I thought. Better tell him. I gulped and admitted it out loud: I’m getting sober, it’s been almost 90 days (minus 2) and well, yeah, it’s been bad. How bad? Oh, I was blacking out about 5 nights of every 7 on a regular basis. Oh, for about 2 years. I’ve been drinking to excess for the past 5-10, I said. That makes a huge difference, thanks for telling me, he said. Not a big deal on his part, but a huge one on mine (I’m sure he sees a LOT of people with mood problems and substance issues. Although, I hope that what he was secretly thinking wasn’t, Wow, she’s seriously fucked UP.).

We then went to work. First, he performed tui na. THAT was awesome. Tui na is a push/pull massage technique; the main goal is to release energy, not so much to massage muscle tension out. Whew, his hands felt like STEEL! He knows his stuff, I thought, grimacing a few times as he dug in and “wrung” out the areas that were in near-splitting pain.

Then, I turned over (I was clothed the entire time; tui na is performed through the clothes) and he stuck two needles in me. That’s it. After my reaction to the first, he said he didn’t want to traumatize me. WHOA. I’ve had acupuncture before, and I’ve cried before from the emotional release it provides, but this was some next-level, out-of-my-world shit. He did some tweaking around both my lower left and right arms — of course, they hurt from typing all the time — and that somehow triggered me. I feel helpless against this pain, and it reminds me of work and stress and my job(s) over the years that helped drill it into me. Then, when he put the needle into my lower right arm and twisted it a bit, he hit a nerve. Literally and figuratively.

I felt a particular sensation of release, of warmth, immediately traveling throughout my right arm and creeping over my entire upper body. It literally felt like warm liquid, and — paradoxically, in this case — both calming and agitating. The twisting of the needle hit a nerve; and along with that raw, shooting pain, I felt emotionally unblocked. It was as if he had also opened up my “emotions” channel, and that started to flow. Boy, did it flow.

I just started bawling. Weeping, actually. I covered my eyes, as I never cry in front of people and in this case, I just COULD NOT STOP. It wasn’t sadness that I was feeling, it was pure GRIEF. Deep and raw and very personal. He told me to let it out, and I did. I told him that I felt so much pain, and croaked out how I felt so much guilt over what I had done while drunk — I feel like a failure, I said.

I continued to shake and cry when he left the room, for about the first 15 minutes of my 25-minute session. When it finally subsided, I felt deeply calm, quite heavy, and ready to sleep. When I got up to leave, I felt dizzy. I stumbled to the front desk, paid him, and looked sheepishly into his unflinching eyes and said, Thank you.

What were the biggest lessons I learned? One, that mind and body are so interrelated it’s sad that it takes us all so damn long to open up to this reality. Yes, reality.

Two, as I was lying on the table, I thought, The day will come when I will be able to shed this body and this brain, and man, I am actually looking forward to that day! Fucking pain in the ass, this life shit! Which, ironically, put me at ease: for the first time, I grasped the concept of three’s, one and two being my body and brian, three being something/someone over or outside each and both. Could it be that there IS something — tangible, present, real — beyond the body and brain?

Three, it became apparent to me that — at least toward the last 2 years, and possibly throughout at times — I drank not to numb myself, but to actually FEEL. I hold a lot of feelings in, repress them. Drinking was my way of expressing the sadness and anger that I wouldn’t and often, couldn’t let out. Sure, it was artificial — why am I crying my eyes out after two glasses of red wine? — and exaggerated — why am I screaming bloody murder at a complete stranger? — but it allowed me to express some version of the real sadness and anger that I felt.

I’m still recovering, and feel sadder than ever today. But, it’s a good sadness, a grief that isn’t artificial. I felt the real thing today. As my mom so eloquently pointed out to me after the one and only time I blacked out in front of her (Christmas, 2011) and dissolved into a teary, confused, sociopathic mess: I truly hope that you can start bringing out some of these feelings when you’re sober. Duh. I didn’t quite get what she meant, but it’s clear to me now.

10 Responses to “Emotional healing through acupuncture? Yes, yes, YES.”

  1. Chicago September 11, 2012 at 4:50 am #

    That is awesome. Not sure how you feel about the whole “higher power” deal, but this sure sounds like a sign of something to me. Big breakthroughs like this are incredible, miraculous, and seem to hit right when we need them. I am so happy this happened to you, and that you shared it with us. I am finding that the crying when I need to cry, even when it is inconvenient, (like in public, or allllll through my first AA meeting yesterday!) is a powerfully healing thing. Rooting for you, for me, for all of us.

    • Drunky Drunk Girl September 11, 2012 at 4:54 am #

      Wow, so great you went to your first AA meeting! And, yeah, that sounds emotional — glad you made it through. I still haven’t quite gotten to AA here, but soon. I’m surprised, in a way, that I could actually get that emotional after so long a running start, y’know? I mean, I would have expected it to come out sooner. Anyway, I highly recommend acupuncture for any type of emotional healing. Root, root, root! Chitown to the Bay and back again. We’re doing amazing things! πŸ˜‰

      • Chicago September 11, 2012 at 11:25 pm #

        Love the acupuncture idea. I need very little to open the floodgates these days, but it does feel like my body is carrying around so much sadness, guilt, regret (sigh…ok, end of dramatic self-indulgence!). I did make it to AA! Went Sunday, again last night, on my way to another meeting. I have no clue what I’m doing, so I’m doing what other people tell me to do…. Which is totally against my nature, but clearly, what I have always done (tried to tweak, control, fight, punch, cry, kick/scream my way through life) does NOT work! All I know is I felt peace for the first time, and a little glimmer of hope while sitting my ass in those chairs. So, I’m goin back. We will see! Hope today is looking/feeling bright and hopeful for you too m’dear!

  2. Belle (Tired2012) September 11, 2012 at 7:08 am #

    my god it’s like every day i check in with your blog and you’re doing something else amazing and mind blowing. when i joked about doing one big thing out in the world each day, i didn’t really imagine an event where you’d ‘see the light’ and ‘cry’ at the same time πŸ™‚ you really are something brave these days, missy! i literally can’t wait to see what you will do / learn / become next. what a cool trip of self-discovery you’re on. OK, sure, it might be sad at times, but you’re doing it. And this could only be happening if you are sober. and you are. This is sooo exciting πŸ™‚

    • Drunky Drunk Girl September 11, 2012 at 10:16 pm #

      Yes, it’s great to experience things…on their own terms and not influenced by wine! And yes, I feel like my momentum is coming back, I’m taking back the reins, able to say yes to some things and no to a LOT others that I don’t really need or want! Maybe this is my semi-pink cloud…or maybe I’m just a “high-functioning” recoveric? (Yes, I just made that word up.)

  3. nomoremerlot September 11, 2012 at 9:56 pm #

    damn .. . another cool blog I’ll have to read from end to end!

  4. sswl September 12, 2012 at 1:08 am #

    Great post, DDD! I’ve done some acupuncture for my back and always felt pretty mellow after, but not the sort of catharsis you experienced. Maybe it depends on where they put the needles? Kudos to you for trying something out of your comfort zone!

    • Drunky Drunk Girl September 12, 2012 at 7:04 am #

      Thanks for your comment! I don’t understand why it works or how. I’ve never had a needle inserted on the inside of my arm, which is a very sensitive spot to begin with. I could actually feel the sciatica pain lessen by about 40 to 45% (he asked me along the way to tell him how the pain felt) after he inserted the needle into my arm. I’ve usually had good experiences with acupuncture relieving back pain…for about 72 hours. Then, it comes back. I think this guy just knows a lot more about energy channels than other acupuncturists I’ve been to…

  5. Andrew March 4, 2014 at 6:19 pm #

    Hey. Thanks for sharing your story with us. Your experience with acupuncture sounds amazing. Where/Who did you go to have it done?

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