12:25 pm
You are not sick.
You are not crazy.
You are not “overthinking” it.
You are not obsessive.
You are not mean, or manipulative, or a bitch.
You are not diseased, or disordered.
You are not lazy, or inept, or incapable.
And, most definitely, you are not the label you call yourself.
You are a person, with a miraculous tenacity to fight the urge to drink, or use–which drinking or using is the opposite of loving yourself. One day, you will come to realize that there is this big ocean of calm called self-love, that can combat all the negativity, self-doubt, and external “un-love” factors that present themselves on a daily basis. To those attempting to mess with that ocean? Go ahead and try; it ain’t gonna work on me this time. THAT is self-love (and a little bit of self-righteousness, but hey, we need that now and then).
Love yourself, and everything else will follow. Love yourself with treats, and flowers, and solitude. Why? Because you can. Because you want to–above all the self-sabotaging, you see that you really want to help yourself by loving yourself. Because that is the “natural order” of things. Look around–do you see birds and plants not loving themselves, not putting their needs first, trying to break themselves down?
You are seeing through the ways in which you didn’t love yourself before–most of them you learned, or they became habit. You never stopped to say, I deserve to be loved. It’s OK, we all do it. We’re human. We have this brain, and it is a complicated little mess of electricity. Beyond this brain, however, is a bigger body–the holy ground. This Body with a capital “b” is the holy ground. This Body is our connection to self, to relationships, to “god,” as it were. And this Body needs care, and calm. This Body doesn’t need to be beaten down, or examined, or “dealt with.” This Body just needs love.
You can be proud of yourself no matter what you “did” or “didn’t do” while drinking or using. You really can. You can be proud of yourself today, for not drinking, or for starting over, or for reaching your 100 days, 300 days, 3,000 years of sobriety. And, if no one else loves you today, love yourself. At the end of the day, that is the ONLY thing that matters. Everything else will follow.
Drunky Drunk Girl 
This is beautiful and inspirational and I really needed it this week. Thank you ❤
You are welcome!!! 🙂
I totally believe that self-love and acceptance is the only way to truly walk the path to freedom. Thanks for this! You are beautiful! x
Ooops nothing like repeating yourself to get a point across 🙂 Have a lovely day darlin x
I totally believe that self-love and acceptance is the only way to truly walk the path to freedom. Thanks for this! You are beautiful! x
You have to learn to love yourself before you try to love somebody else. I didn’t necessarily do it in the best order really …
YOU ARE STRONG 🙂
Beautiful and dead-on. Thank you.
I wrote in 2012 in my journal that I think I needed to stop drinking to find self love. It took my another year and half to try sobriety. Thank you for this post and reminding me one of the reasons I started this journey.
Just beautiful – and worth sharing. Thanks so much!
Great…really made my day! Here’s a quote that puts my attitude in perspective: “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.” -Bill Cosby
Love that.
Reblogged this on The Hypocritical Weight Loss Coach and commented:
This young lady could be an awesome psychologist. I love her blog for the amazing insight she shows. This post, on loving one’s self, is brilliant and I thought I would share it with you all. I hope you enjoy it as I did.
I had to bookmark this. Just beautiful. Thanks! Joyce xx
Post again soon Drunky Drunk Girl. It’s been a while now, and I miss your prose.
Perfect message for today thank you.